We were just outside L. A. and Melissa sang to me. Melissa Manchester.
The great popular singers — the Sinatras and Streisands, for example — found greatness by seeming to sing to us, not to some vague audience out there somewhere. (Just as the most successful radio voices communicated to that one listener, not to the thousands who may have tuned in at the same time.) It wasn’t just the lyrics that spoke to us, and it wasn’t that the music sang to our hearts; it was more like the singer knew us intimately, could empathize with our melancholy or our joy, and their eyes said as much as their voices.
Melissa Manchester had a sprinkling of hits in the late 1970’s into the ’80’s, so I featured her songs on “Celebration Rock,” with one Melissa Manchester special airing 25 years ago this week. (Time does fly!) In those days, to get the artist’s hit single, I often bought the whole album and in playing it through, and then listening carefully to lyrics, I would decide if I could feature the album on CR. When I first heard Melissa Manchester’s voice and paid attention to her songs, there was no doubt I could spend an hour with her in the production studio and wind up with a CR show. That was years prior to the 1983 script that follows, and even prior to the night she sang to me in 1979 near Hollywood. (Yeah, there’s more to that story…later.)
The 1983 “Celebration Rock” show opened with “Such a Morning” and these words recovered from the original script that I wrote on the back of WCVE-TV’s prime time PBS programming schedule. (I was recycling paper even then.) [Script follows, with discography in brackets:]
A day in the life of Melissa Manchester, from our opening cut “Such a Morning” to “Midnight Blue.” There’s a lot to fill up this day– emotions from pain to jubilation, people, from lovers to strangers; and songs of conscience and proclamation. Melissa no doubt tells her own stories, but also ours. She sings of love and loneliness, of lovers lost and found. Her ballads are often sad, but not always. Sometimes, they’re thoughtful, gentle confessions of dependence or quiet words of wisdom. And when the beat is more up tempo, she effectively lifts our spirits with messages of hope and festive inspiration. Now, here’s Melissa Manchester. [“Just Too Many People;” followed by “To Make You Smile Again”]
Melissa celebrates the power of love. Her words are centered in romantic relationships, but not limited to them. She sings, “…long as you stay by me, I’m halfway home. I can see brighter days before me, tho’ it’s been stormy. At least I know I’m not alone.” And she counts herself blessed because, “There’s just too many people in this world living in a house divided by loneliness and sorrow.” Her advice to one who’s been crying far too long is heard in the second song in that set: “Sometimes you find that in forgiving you can mend a broken heart, but somehow you’re afraid to turn around to see there’s someone who feels like you.” I guess I don’t need to add to her sermon, but one sentence might pull it all into focus: Forgiveness comes through persistent patience, and always results in a smile, if not on the face, then certainly in the heart.
Next, two songs about that patience, in a relationship, the first from her 1982 album “Hey Ricky.” The Biblical text for this set of two is from 1 Corinthians 13:4… Love is patient, and kind. [“Slowly” followed by “We’ve Got Time”]
Someone (Henry Ward Beecher) said long ago that patience is simply riding out the storm. But it’s a virtue not always linked to squalls and whirlwinds. Sometimes patience is more like self-control, mastering time, and steadfastly avoiding time’s mastery over us. Maybe it’s more like redeeming the time. Melissa celebrates patient love. “We don’t have to push it; we don’t have to rush it. We don’t have to worry. We’ve got time.” She sings to her lover: “I can’t hurry my loving like you want me to do…and one night of love, baby, won’t mean a thing to me or you. Let’s not rush into something; we’d be acting like a fool.”
It’s easy to get the message of two people in love, aware that passion is beginning to make decisions better left to reason. With that song sung from the woman’s point of view, it’s not hard to see the guy pushing her further than she wants to go. Melissa sings, “You’re coming on much too strong. We need to know each other, so let’s take it nice and slow.”
Here’s an interesting footnote to that song called “Slowly”: it’s written not by Melissa…but by three men. [Then the big hit “You Should Hear How She Talks About You”]
“You should let her know how you feel.” She’s certainly letting her feelings be known all over town. “You should hear how she talks about you!” The relationship seems a bit uneven…and it’ll stay that way…until it gets worse! Unless he opens up and lets her know what’s on his mind. What we have here is a failure to, yes, communicate. And if it’s not resolved, that failure can follow a marriage through all its years.
Melissa Manchester has written a moving account of a husband and wife, who, after thirty years of holding on, are still closed to one another. Here’s the story, through the eyes of Grace. [“Through the Eyes of Grace”]
“Grace and John are in their morning places. He looks at the paper; she looks straight ahead. Neither one is hungry, but they need to be fed.” John is checking out the sports section, scanning the front page, arguing silently with the editorials. And Grace is crying inside. “Look across the table, Johnny. Look across the table to me.” Why doesn’t she translate those thoughts into words, her feelings into tears? Maybe because she was raised, as so many of us were, to keep it all inside. We learn how to hide our feelings. [“Don’t Cry Out Loud”]
Don’t cry out loud. Big girls don’t cry. And no boys, big or small, are supposed to cry. So we hide our feelings in check, until they begin to eat slowly away at our health or our judgment. Or, until they explode and injure whoever is nearby at the time, usually an innocent bystander. If only we could learn to say something when our inner thoughts need to be set free, to explain, to apologize, to dream, to sympathize, to share, forgive, or love.
If only we could learn that tears are an appropriate way to respond in joy as well as in sadness. It used to be that everyone knew the shortest verse in the Bible; two words– a subject, a predicate: Jesus wept. More than a piece of Bible trivia, it points to the fullness of his humanity, and shows that tears are nothing to be ashamed of. They cleanse the troubled spirit. [“Come in from the Rain” was followed by “Shine Like You Should” and “Wish We Were Heroes.”]
Melissa Manchester and David Gates. “I wish we were heroes, never feeling all of the pain.” But so much for heroes, because heroes don’t cry. Many of the songs on Melissa Manchester’s earlier albums were written by Melissa and Carole Bayer Sager. But the “Hey, Ricky” album represents the work of several composers, from George and Ira Gershwin to Bernie Taupin to Vangelis. We’ll hear that Vangelis contribution as this “Celebration Rock” show comes to an end, but first here’s Melissa, singing from her soul. [“Singing from My Soul” and then, “Race to the End”]
“Race to the End” with words by Jon Anderson and the familiar music of Vangelis’ “Chariots of Fire” theme. The words were inspired by those who ran in Olympic competition in the film “Chariots of Fire.” Eric Liddell, the Scottish missionary whose story was recounted in the movie, said that when he ran he felt that it gave God pleasure. The Apostle Paul wrote to the young church at Corinth, using the metaphor of a race to explain the commitment and discipline needed to be a follower of Christ. (I Corinthians 9:24-27) Maybe Paul was remembering the promise of the prophet Isaiah (40:31): Those who trust in the Lord for help will find their strength renewed. They will rise up on wings like eagles; they will run and not be weary. They will walk and not grow weak. [“Midnight Blue”]
So there was the show, and now about that night when Melissa looked into my eyes and sang “Don’t Cry Out Loud” to me. We were at the 1979 taping of NBC’s “Tonight Show Starring Johnny Carson” and she was his musical guest. She sat on a stool and sang. And I could swear (as I have for almost 30 years since) that she was looking right at me…as I sat in the studio audience. At least, she was singing from her soul.